Renewal and Reconnect.

Years with loads of experiences has passed by. Daily life experiences influenced every bit of my being. Places I’ve seen that taught me our differences in our way of living. People I’ve met who shared their life and make me understand things through them. 

We all are different but the same. We all are born and brought up differently but the same. We are all the same. We all try to live every day.

As I go through my routine, I remember I was once tried to open-up to the world. There’s a footprint I left somewhere to revisit my old habits. I can share or write anything I wanted without judgement from anyone. I was busy trying to make images and revising codes to make the blog look fancy. I do not really intend to beautify it to impress other people but myself. That’s just how I make myself engaged and to self-reflect.

This isn’t meant to become my diary. I am not even a good writer, its just an outlet of a busy mind. There are episodes in my life that brought me stones I meant to pick up and I will try to best to share it with everyone and hope that someone can get something useful from it.

This is my renewal.

Stand and walk again just like other...

I know many people are going through trials in life.

Many of us are struggling to have a happy and complete life.

Unfortunately, we are not destined to be happy always like the way we wanted to be.

We are destined only to go on and move on with life no matter how hard it is to face the trials given to us.

No matter what life brings you, you must stay strong and never lose hope.

Just think that it’s not only you who’s experiencing the same problem.

It’s not only you who is suffering from emotional depression. Everybody does.

Life doesn’t always end in the darkness side.

There’s still light in the end that will make you feel better and relief.

You may seem to feel that life is so unfair.

Tomorrow, you will soon understand that life includes all the things happened in your life.

You just have to stand and walk again even after many fall…

Just like any other people...

Should I Stop or Should I go?

Falling in love is unexplainable. You don’t know how and why but you just felt it.
Out from your busy world, you never realize that there is someone out there looking at you and start to admire you.
As time goes by, you fall too… and it’s somehow a fulfillment when you know that he’/ she’s there to catch you. Love is in the air!!! As you go through the relationship, you begin to know each other better and deeper. You already know what he/she likes and not.
Your patience became longer. No more childish acts except when you’re just trying to be sweet. The relationship went well. The love became strong. The seed of trust has already planted and grew like tree.
But, what will you do when all of a sudden one says, due to religion matters, you can’t be together? Or Due to traditional beliefs you can’t be together?
It’s like an apple in your hand but you can’t eat it because it’s not yours and you’re not allowed to. It’s like lovely flowers from someone’s garden surrounded by high fences and you can’t pick it but only look at it.
It’s like you were driving fast on the road to catch a flight. Should you beat the red light to get there on time and fly away or Stop and let the plane go…
Beating the red light is somehow beating the rules just to be with someone you love.
But consequences are, when you beat the rules, are you ready to pay charges of your action? If you stop and let it go, are you ready to start a new life again?
Both hard…

You have a choice

You have a choice.
In everything that you do, you always have a choice.
In school, if you want to pass the exam, you have a choice to
study or not. Expect a pass or failed grade.
In the office, sometimes we feel like so tired of going to a
place over and over again with a bunch of work in your desk. You
always have the choice to come or not to come. Expect a promotion
or get domoted.
In love, if someone dumped you, you have a choice to dump him
too. You have a choice to love the person even after all the
things done to you. Expect a love back or a hoping person forever.
In everything that you do and in everything that you have, you
always have the choice on how are you going to handle it.Try to look over the things. Try to imagine what might happen. Worst come to Worst or or something even better.

Undisciplined

Who doesn't want to start their day Happy?No one, right?
Some people are unaware of their actions and leads to
undisciplined manner which is kinda disappointing.I am on my way going to the office. I reached my destination and
when I was about to get off from a jeepney ride, these bunch of
people block the door and tried to go inside. How can I go out
properly when they are there blocking my way? How can they sit if
we are still inside? Why can't they wait till we free up the
seat? The door is too tight for us to go out and for them to get inside
at the same time. I even hit the door with my head.In frustration, i lose my temper and say,Can you please move away from the door so we can move out and u
can get in?
Even though they are late or whatever reason why they were in a
hurry getting inside, sometimes we should keep on watching our
action.
Is it hard to give way first and wait for your turn?"Haste makes waste" remember that always.
It always happen in any public transportation like train,bus,
taxi, etc.
We are longing for a good and peaceful country, right?But how can we have that in place if in a simple way we can't do
it in ourselves?
This is also a matter of applying the "give and take
relationship"
If we do this over and over again, I think it will be too hard
for us to move on and its frustrating...

Unloading thoughts in mind

I am alone in the room.
Writing what’s on my mind.
I don’t have any subject to write about.
I just do.
And now, I have few lines created.
What would be the next?
Thoughts in my mind are bare.
No emotional stuffs to put in writing.
I just want to construct something out of nothing.
Is this worth it?
What do you think?
Have you done something like this?
I bet you do.
You can’t just do something until you suddenly do something.
Without even thinking what would you really want to achieve.
Now, this is it.

This is something like outlet of your unknown thoughts.
With all the things that makes you think so hard and so deep can make your mind or thoughts became empty.
And now you don’t know where to start until you begin at something that’s not really on your mind to begin with.

Somehow it can help relax your mind, am I right?
Yes it is. Your mind was like doing some exercise.
Feel the difference between doing something with your mind working really hard and
doing something freely out of your mind’s thought.
It’s less stressful at the same time, unloading your heavy thoughts in mind.

Factors why teenagers losing their way

Most of the teenagers nowadays are encircled with temptations.
Their experience is not enough to guide them in making decision and dealing with daily life.
This is why elders or older one must keep an eye for guidance.

I have notice that there are lots of teenagers these days lost their way.
They have given an instant responsibility at the wrong time.
The responsibility I am talking with is unwanted pregnancy.

Why does this happen?
Teenagers just want to explore life. Some factors that trigger these kind of incident are the following:
- Environment.
- Movies and televisions
- People around them.

Let’s tackle it one by one.

Environment: A person's environment can somehow affect a person's lifestyle, attitude, perspective in life, etc.
Yes, not all us can afford to choose and live the life according to what we want. Of course, the type of family you have will always counts. In this case, we need parents help to guide their children/teens.
Take note that it is parent's responsibility to take care of their child but as a concern citizen, we should impart our knowledge to build a good community as well.

Movies and Televisions: What we watch/see can become our deeds and a habit. For younger ones, we should let them see what
is appropriate with their age. Also, let them understand why they need to get away from prohibited programs this time.

People around them: Traits from people around younger ones can also affect the way they think or they act.
For elders, avoid acting something inappropriate to younger's eye. Show them the right attitude to live with.
Younger ones almost follow what they see in elders. You cannot control other unaware people regarding this
issue or let's just say " People who don’t care". What we can do is to let younger one understand everything.
Share stories and insight, this way, they can slowly understand what is happening around them.
They can slowly understand and aware of what should be done or not.

Your Life Your Rule

I am sad because

... i am disappointed.

... i am hurt.

... i am hopeless.

... no one loves me.

... i feel so alone.

... they all left me.

... they dont care bout me.

... i lost someone.

... i failed.

... some steal my stuff.

These are the few reason why you are sad.

Too many factors causes you to be sad.

But have you think that there are also too many reasons to be happy?

Why let sad things control you?

Because you are weak?

No, you are not. You're just dont want to fight.

Things around you dont exactly have control to rule you.

It will always be you. Its you who to decide and who to deal with, right?

So whatever happens, it will always be your rule.

Why dont we rephrase it.

I am sad because

... i am disappointed but I can make it up again next time.

... i am hurt but I will be strong next time and learn from it.

... i am hopeless but it will not be forever hopeless. I can still find a way.

... no one loves me but I can show people that I am deserving to be loved.

... i feel so alone but this will make me strong in the other way.

... they all left me but I can change to make them back to me.

... they dont care bout me but not all.

... i lost someone but Its not the end.

... i failed but I can be better next time.

... some steal my stuff but its just a stuff which I can replace.

It turned out better right?

How's the feeling? even better?

see... if will always be your rule.

You can always start

A sunrise after loosing someone is waiting for you.

Yes, its hard to accept that the one we love gone already.

Its hard to think that you cant be with that person again.

Its hard to imagine that you can never talk to that person with your sweet stories.

Its hard to imagine that you cant grow again with that person.

Yes, its hard but time will heal if you let it heal you.

There's always beginning. If you choose to start again, you can start again.

But if you choose to be left behind from yesterday, nothing's gonna happen to you.

You will be stuck up for the rest of your life.

You're blocking yourself to the road of happiness.

There's no other option but to move on.

Try to think of positive and happy thoughts.

Try to appreciate things and people around you.

Its like you are in a puzzled garden, trying to find your way out.

If you dont walk and look around, you wont be able to find your way out.

You wont be able to witness things outside.

It would take sometime but right time will always be just in front of you.

Just walk to reach it.Move on but dont forget the sweet memories from the past.

The person who left us physically will always stay in your heart.

They are just around looking very proud of you

Coz they know that you still stand no matter what.

It will all get better in time

There will always be a time in your life wherein you feel like hopeless.

Trials, Problems, Storms or whatever you want to call it, strikes at the same time.

You dont even had the chance to give yourself a break.

No one's to blame.And blaming will not help in the first place.

Sometimes there are uncontrolled things in life that you need to face.

Its hard to keep going coz you think, there's no way out.

Its hard to walk in the middle of a thunder storm coz you think your not strong enough to continue walking.

You think you do not have enough strength to stand against heavy wind of life.

It will always be our decision to stay and be stranded or to keep walking to reach the finish line.

Keep in mind that there is always day and night.Sun will rise no matter what.

Keep fighting and be strong.Learn from the darkness of life.

For it will make you strong more than you could imagine.Be smart enough to play life.

Everything will get better in time.Just the right time...

Loosing for the win.

Does it feel good when your competing with someone you know who cant win?

You were like "I am the best"

Sometimes, most of them are doing anything to win.

Even the worst thing in the world for the win.

So to make that person stop being so stupid on you

You'll just let him get whatever he/she wants

But at the back of your mind, you are laughing out loud and saying

"Sometimes the best win is losing for someone who wants to win badly but cant win."

Hong Kong Spots

A shot from Avenue of Stars in Hongkong. It was nice to see laser show every night at 8pm. The lights from the building are dancing with the music. There are lots of people watching the show. Most of them are from different countries. If you want to have an express photoshot as a souvenir, you can find photo stand anywhere. For only 10 HKD per shot.

As you walk around, you can find these spots where you can take your pictures. On the ground, you'll also see hand prints from various artist, Bruce Lee's scuplture, a park at the end near the Star Ferry Station.

If you'd like to see the traditional night market, you can go to Ladies Market.
There you can find, many souvenirs. If you are expert in making a good deal for "for sale items", this is the right place for you.

Are you prepared?

You may notice that most of the girls carry their bag every time they go out.
But what’s inside that bag? Hmmm… Why can’t they leave it at home?
Most of the things inside a lady’s bag is, a lip gloss/lip balm so that when you look at their lips, it makes you feel like you want to kiss her. Just kidding… Even without wearing make-ups, good color of lips or shiny lips can handle it all. You can also see a loose powder or pressed powder, so that our faces may not look oily. Our hair is very important, before going out from the rest room; we make sure that our hair looks okay.
For me, the hair can say how that lady carry herself. A mini mirror is also on the list. A mirror is a girl’s best friend. A handy mirror can help us check if we still look fine or not.
A cologne or perfume of course must not be forgotten. A good or well-dressed look is incomplete if you smell nothing. I remember one of the commercial line “What if, the hand of faith leads you to Mr. Right? Are you prepared?” that’s the reason behind these stuffs.
But the main reason is, we’re just making ourselves presentable any time and any where.

Expecting the unexpected!

“Expect the unexpected”. You must be ready of anything that may come no matter how positive or negative the impact maybe. Condition yourself to cope up easily with situations or surprises that may come your way. The feeling is great when you know you can pass through certain surprises and can manage every situation.
Negative surprises can make us cry and lonely but with our inner strength and being brave, the impact is less. The fear of failing is minimal because of trusting yourself. Positive surprises can make us do our utmost to be happy like craving for more surprises.

Smoke caused wrinkles

Do you hang out in smoky places more than thrice a week? If so, do you know that its harmful to your skin as it triggers the release of wrinkle-causing free radicals because those clouds contain significant levels of nicotine, tar and carbon monoxide, a research from Tom Mammone executive director of Clinique biological research and development.
This article got from Cosmopolitan is very helpful to me since I’m one of those who encountered smoky places every time I got to work.
We can’t avoid smoky places or sharing airspace with smokers. It’s there lifestyle so we can’t do something about it. What we can do is to clean up when we get home to prevent more free-radical damage.

Do not ignore the signs of Breast Cancer

Sometimes we tend to ignore things that happened in our body.
We don’t care about it until we sense something odd or strange.
Breast Cancer is a cancer of the glandular breast tissue. This is fifth most common cause of cancer death.
You can check with below guidelines so you’ll know the actions that need to be done just in case you are one of them.

5 Strange Signs of Breast Cancer

1. Thickening near your armfit
If the skin on your upper corner of your chest (where it intersects with your armfit) feels thick or knotty, it could indicate a tumor that has spread to the nearby lymph nodes.

2. Scaling around the areola.
If any sections of the areola seems scaly or you notice a sore there that doesn’t heal after a few weeks, you may have a rare form of breast cancer called Paget’s disease.

3. A puckered texture
As a tumor grows in breast tissue, it can crowd out the ligaments that make skin firm and smooth, causing a dimpled creased appearance.

4. Changed in color
A reddish skin inflammation that appears on any part of your pair persists for more than a week, maybe a sign of the disease.

5. An inverted nipple.
While some women are born with one or both their nipples turned inward, one that suddenly retracts is a sign that a lump may be growing under the breast’s areola.

Source: Cosmopolitan: Eva Singletary,MD, Professor of Surgicaloncology at the University of Texas MD Anderson Cancer Center, Houston

Tactics from Article - Girls, be safe!

Continuation: Girls, be safe! Dont be the potential victim and Points to Remember from Article - Girls, be safe!

I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some time, when you will go "Hmm... I must remember that. Never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet and/or purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS!The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU LOCK YOUR DOORS...LEAVE!

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:a. Be aware. Look around you. Look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.c. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Points to Remember from Article - Girls, be safe!

Continuation: Girls, be safe! Dont be the potential victim.

To fight back bad intentions and people, here's some guide that we should know!

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like 'what time is it', or make general small talk like 'can't believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter'. Now that you've seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell 'Stop!' or 'Stay back!' Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling 'I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY!' and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble

Girls, be safe! Dont be the potential victim.

I would like to share this article forwarded by a friend.
Ladies, take note of this!

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman w ith a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is a grocery store parking lot.

5] Number two are office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three are public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

Life has never been that wonderful without them -- Friends

True friends are really hard to find... Many has come but few are left to stand beside you and to join you through good times and bad times....

Though there are times that there were misunderstanding, the aim of being a true friend will never change...
Friends are always there to share a stupid things like hell that will make both of you laugh till you drop and even cry... they can share a tear to join you in your loneliness...they can give you their sweet smile to cheer you up...

sometimes a corny jokes will do to lighten up your feelings... they can give you like a mom's comfort and care...
Friends are your reflection... They are your mirror... True friends can tell whats going on.... They can give you the admiring comments for you to continue doing things that are good....and the worst praise to let you know what they feel about you so you can improve yourself... And For you to change something unwanted...

They can help you to see things clearly... To view things the way it should be.... They can share what they know to help you understand things... They can help you see how beautiful, worst, dangerous, exciting, adventurous and wonderful life can be...
Cherish every moment with them... they are for keeps....